#MarriageTheThroneOfGodBookLaunch
August 25, 2019
“Guard your heart – do not be offended”
September 5, 2019
Genesis 24 Abraham appointed a servant to go look for a bride for Isaac. The servant arrived at Beer-lahai-roi and asked for water for himself and the camels, and Rebekah gave him some water to drink. When the servant met Rebekah, she took him to her father, as she was not an orphan. The servant gave the father a nose ring and an earring as a gift. Isaac went out in the field to meditate on the Word of God, what do many meditate upon, especially when you are about to get married? Most of you meditate on the wedding day but Isaac meditated on the Word of God; he was not worried about how the wife to be will look. I always say do not neglect God when you are about to get married. That is why people make the wrong decisions because they are not searching for the Heart of God but searching for marriage. When you search the Heart of God, you receive a discerning heart.
Marry a man who can continue with the work of your Father; you must marry a shepherd and not a sheep. A shepherd leads you to Christ, so your husband must be able to lead you to Christ. There is no head without Christ. The bible says that a man is the head of the woman as Christ is the head of the man (see 1 Corinthians 11:3), so where there is no Christ there is no head. I am not speaking to only those in the world but even those in church, there can be a man without Christ. That man should have a rod, which is the Word of God. A man without a scepter is neither ahead nor a leader.
Some women require men to love them and men expect submission, whilst there is no Christ in their marriage. Therefore, you need to see Christ in a woman or a man. Do not love a person but love how they fear God. Loving a person fades away, but what remains is the fear of the Lord. People must be faithful because of fearing God. Do not be happy when your man does not cheat because they are with you, but be happy when they do not cheat because they fear God. Yes, men love sex but this should not be the reason for them to cheat.
The devil is always creating opportunities for cheating even when you are married; hence, you need to have self-control. When you still have what satisfies you, it is a clear sign that passion is not dealt with. Paul disciplined his body every day, dying to himself. When the flesh is obedient to the Spirit, then you will not be busy checking the phone of your spouse, stressing that he might be cheating. That is why you need to trust the God in her and not her, because if she fears God in you then she will not sin. Isaac did not become anxious about who his future wife, why are you?
Isaac lifted his eyes and Rebekah lifted her eyes as well, they chose to see each other in God and not with the eyes of the flesh. They lifted their eyes to where their help came from. When you focus on the crucifixion of Christ, you will see and meet your spouse. People check what they have in common rather than focusing on God. Hence, the other partner changes and there is divorce 10 years down the line. Christians are looking for partners the very same way the world looks for a partner, whilst the world itself is in struggling. The world should come to the church and enquire. We need to go back to the Word and learn.
Isaac and Rebekah were still young as we are today, but they never chose for themselves. People come and say that Adam had no choice because there was only one woman but there were other ribs, so Adam could have chosen a rib for himself. Yet God did not enquire from him regarding which rib to take, he just chose for Adam. The problem is that we do not want God to choose for us meanwhile we wait. Check whether you are entirely happy with the choices you make. Look at how you wanted that car, yet today you are stressed about installments. Marriage is not like a car and house, you cannot just change; it is a lifetime commitment. I cannot choose a partner for you because I did not even choose a partner for myself. I can only lead you to hear the Voice of God.
The best way to survive in this world as Christians is to stop thinking that one day you will get married. Erase that thought and just focus on God. Adam’s loneliness was not his feelings; it was God who started the whole marriage. Let it be God who starts you, not you initiating everything. If you make a lifetime decision based on feelings, you will find yourself being unable to bear with your wife.
Do you know those soft men who always make jokes? It easy to find that his wife does not even laugh at his very jokes. In marriage, you do not do things as you please. Once you are in you cannot sign-out in. When it feels hot we tend to (want to) run away. Be with a person who is controlled by the Word of God. There are some women who have not heard the words “I love you” in a long time. Do you want to be in such a relationship? Spouses are living like roommates at the university residence. Be with someone who will love you unconditionally, someone who will not leave you because you wronged him.
We teach the Word and the Holy Spirit cleanses. People tend to say women are short-tempered, but you find that the very same men are short-tempered. In marriage, you need to have a similar character, do not enforce, or try to clean a person. Do not interfere when God is dealing with the weakness (es) of your spouse. The problem is that spouses want to fix each other either than waiting for the Word to fix them. How many of you have told your family members how God loves them but even today, they are not even born-again? No one has the power to change a person.
Therefore, are you ready to become a fool and ignorant? We do not cover only for the world not to see the weaknesses of our spouse’ but we also cover so that we do not see the weaknesses ourselves. Who would confront God that He is sinning when He hated Esau and loved Jacob? Many people marry out of knowledge and not the Word of God. How many times do we need to see people failing? The very same people that are now fighting are the very same ones who were so much in love before; they were holding hands in the malls and kissing in the street corners. People even envied them and they were role models unto some people, but whenever you would go to their houses; you will witness a battleground.
God must build you up to a point that whatever God takes your spouse through, you are able to stand by him/her. You need to be able to step in when your spouse is incapable. Job married a wrong wife, a goat, who wanted him to curse God. Do not be with someone who is not built for what you are going through. You do not have to know that your spouse will go through a specific situation however; you should be able to stand and have strength in whatever situation they go through. Mary was built for Jesus; she understood the mandate of Jesus, she even anointed (prepared) Him for burial. Everyone wants to marry a perfect person. If everyone was perfect then there would be no need for Jesus. We are all striving to be perfect like Jesus. Therefore, do not tell your spouse that they have changed.
Do not write up a list of what you want in a person but the only thing that you need to check is if they have Christ and that is it. There is no perfect marriage in a pub; you cannot change a person whilst you found them in a pub etc. Why do you want your spouse to stay at home on a Friday whilst you met him on Friday at the very same pub? They would leave you with the children while they have gone off to enjoy themselves at the very same place where you met. Marriage is not for changing people; we always trust in God for their transformation. We need to like Isaac and Rebekah who trusted God.
Your mind belongs to God, stop thinking about that boy or that girl. Rebekah asked who was the man approaching; when she learned that it was Isaac, she covered herself. We usually say that cover yourself from the world (boys), but you even need to cover yourselves from your future spouse. That man should respect the veil even though you are his. Even though he is a prophet or anointed, know your identity! A ring does not mean anything that matters is only the command of the Father. He cannot taste honey before time. There should be a sting where there is honey; a sting that prevents you to eat before time. Therefore, if they can touch then there is no sweetness (honey). Honey is a sweet substance that is protected by a painful sting. Yesterday I taught during the seminar that a woman opens her legs to her husband during intercourse as a sign of submission. Therefore, how do you open your legs to that boy who is not even ahead, why submit to a person who cannot love?
The power that the enemy has is in our silence. If people would come up front and teach this generation about their past mistakes, then young would learn and not be of the very same mistakes. Imagine if the bible did not record all the mistakes of the people in the old; How would we better ourselves? Do not just use physical punishments, however, sit your children down, and explain to them what consequences they might face after certain actions and decisions they make. Boyfriends are now playing the very role of loving their girlfriends because of parents are ignorant and failing to love their daughters. Parents take your little girl(s) out and show her (them) how much you love her (them) and how beautiful she is or how beautiful they are.
My sons let your eyes be open for ‘Rebekah’ and not just any girl. Ask yourself, if she allowed you to kiss her; how many did she already allow to kiss her? Rebekah covered herself because she loved herself. My daughters, I am begging you; cover yourself with the veil, no matter how powerful and famous that person may be, virginity is only a once-off experience. Do not sell yourself cheap! Do not be found in the statistics of virginities a boy broke. Rather be a fool for 30 years just to remain a virgin than be wise for only 5 minutes and regret it throughout your entire life. Single people, wait on the Lord!
YESHUA; A CITY ON A HILL, THE LIGHT THAT CANNOT BE HIDDEN!
