‘THE BEAUTY OF A WOMAN IS SEEN THROUGH CONDUCT’

[Titus 2: 1-7]

This scripture is directed to men, every man should have this one quality in common which is self-control. Whenever people encounter you as a man, due to this quality they should be able to respect you. We all ought to be sound in our faith (Word of God) because it is possible to have the Word and yet without a sound Faith. When you are sound it means you can make the right decisions according to the Word you have received.

Sound Faith or mind can be likened to maturity. When you are not mature, you can never be sound in the Word of God. Lacking sound Faith result in a lack of self-control, such also influence one’s decision-making. You cannot expect people to respect you whereas you failed to earn that respect, as respect is earned and not demanded.

(Verse 6) It begins with what men were supposed to be taught, that what applies to men it is so with women. That the very same things that men need to do, women need to do as well. The freedom that women have in the world is not the one that women had in the Bible. When you become born again, there is a certain way that God expects you to behave as a woman. In your freedom do not sin. Let there be no sign of ungodly behaviour.

We are not bound but we are free, though we are free to do whatever we want to do, we need to be aware of how we do things. How you dress, walk, and speak is very important. (Verse 7) it further says teach meaning this is conduct. This scripture is not entirely dealing with the fruit of the Spirit but deals with one’s behaviour around other people. The fruit of the Spirit is not according to how you behave around other people however It is about what God gives you.

People will start respecting you because of how you behave around them. Certain behaviours are ungodly. There is a saying that “Cleanliness is next to godliness”. Godliness is not more of a character but behaviour [conduct, a way of doing things].
There is a difference between character and behaviour, behavior administrates the character you have and also how you manifest your character. When it speaks about godliness it is more on the behaviour of God.

You cannot say that you are in the Holy of Holies yet the place is dirty. There is a behaviour that is expected from a born-again believer. Some things need to change regardless of what you have been taught. Certain behaviours are just not right. It is not a matter of it is the way of doing things. Henceforth if such behavior makes people lose respect for you then this requires a change in your behavior.

People around you must respect you according to the way you behave and conduct yourself.

Teach women to be reverent in the way they live. Despite the fruits being there. Someone can say flirting does not do anything against the fruits of the Spirit. It’s not sinful nor is it written that you must not flirt. There must be reverence in how you live. We cannot be Christians and have all the fruits of the Spirit yet our behaviour is not according to the Word of God.

There is a reason why it mentions not being addicted to much wine. When someone is intoxicated, there is a certain behaviour. Yet now, people do not have to be intoxicated for them to behave in that manner. No matter how much the world is changing and we have freedom, that should not change our behaviour and how we conduct ourselves. As a Christian brother, there are certain hugs you should not be receiving from sisters. To show that they do not respect their body hence they give out hugs and allow someone of a different gender to touch them.

The body of a woman to God is precious. God likens the body of a woman to God; like a jewel. You can go to the shop to buy a ring, and other rings are locked up safely and are not for display. When you have to purchase it, they would even wipe it for you showing that it is a precious jewel that is kept clean. There are those stores that don’t just allow anyone to come in and you need to declare your source of income before you enter that particular jewellery store.

Likewise, as a woman, you need to introspect and check which category you fall under. Are you a precious jewel or not. Your beauty does not come from your jewellery and all, but it comes from within. The mere reason that women are likened to jewels shows how God values every woman. Hence it is important who touches and speaks to you.
The purpose of a young woman keeping her life pure is not only for her sake but for the Word.

When they are seen as invaluable, then the Word of God has been tampered with. The Word of God is seen as valuable, pure, powerful through how women conduct themselves. From home and going out they need to conduct themselves right. They need to be busy at home and be kind. Many women lack kindness towards those they live with. This is the first mistake, also woman cannot complain and say it is unfair because good character and kindness is expected from them.

Certain things might not be regarded as sin to man, but regarded as sin when done by a woman. This is a battle most women have that they compare themselves with men, they always want to be men. The truth of the matter is, a man can sleep with many women, and a woman can do that but she will not be pure. Hence you find that most prostitutes are women, however, this is not to say we encourage men to sleep around or sin.

There are things that women will be judged with that men will not be judged for. There are things that God expects from women and not from men. To offer yourself to a man who is not your husband as a woman, you will be judged for that. Yet a man can do that and yet not be judged for it. This kindness that is needed is expected from women and not men. Many would exclaim that why they want us (women) to be pure but they (men) can do all sorts of things, however as a woman you are going to be judged not as they(men) are judged.

Often women think or coincide that they must be holy and pure for the sake of their husbands, however, it is not about your husband but you. You are a woman and therefore should not compare yourself to a man. You excel when you accept who you are. While you still battle with who you are, you fail in being who you are. Many concentrate on failing for being someone, but in fact, you fail in being who you are when you try to be someone else. A woman fails when she tries to be a man however she excels when she accepts that she is a woman. A man can be angry, but a woman does not have to because they are subjected. A man is accountable to Christ, whereas a woman is accountable to her husband. Do not make yourself Christ and try to make your husband accountable.

[1 Corinthians 11:3]

The head of a man is Christ, however many women instead of becoming the body, want to be the head over men and try to bring accountability. Do not subject yourself to any man who is not a believer because they have nowhere to be accountable. Henceforth with regards to dating, there is no scripture to address it, because the Bible speaks about wives and not girlfriends. Henceforth if there is a way of life that is not guided or advised by the Bible, know that it is not from God.

There are scriptures that teach you how to become a wife, husband, parent, or child. Yet there is no supporting scripture that teaches about dating. When you date, you are not covered in the Bible. If you need advice, go to where you are covered as in this house we advise wives and husbands.

The older women must teach the young. The young need to learn and aspire to be like the old, not only in finances but also in conduct and behaviour. We have mentors in many aspects of our lives yet no mentor to teach behaviour and character. You need a mentor for your behaviour. One might have outer beauty and yet without good character. It is very easy for any husband to always look forward to going home because of the kind of woman he has, henceforth what makes a home is not furniture or meals prepared. Men are like Christ, where there are quarrels they walk out.

There will always be a balance. In as much as God is teaching women to have self-control, likewise, men should too. Men are the ones who approach women, therefore they need self-control to keep them from going out. There are some brothers in the church who have been approaching every woman. They have started their very own single and mingle show, this is a clear sign that there is no self-control. It is unquestionable that indeed there is beauty that men will see, but it is emphasizing self-control that men must have. Beauty is not curves. There is a certain beauty that causes all eyes to see it.

Young men should be encouraged to have self-control, yet this is not preached in churches. This is a prophet teaching that these are things that need to be taught in the church; young men need to be taught how to have self-control. They need to stop coming with a predatory mentality. Seeing beauty does not mean you must meditate. Do not associate beauty with having a wife or girlfriend. “My wife and daughter are beautiful hence I can tell my daughters that they are beautiful” therefore do not associate beauty with a relationship because some when they see a beautiful woman they see a potential wife.

Moreover, brothers, you need to cancel marriage in your achievement list, for it is not an achievement. The day you accept that you are Paul is the day you are ready to get married. The day you accept that you do not need someone but rather you will live alone, and be like Adam, is the day God will bless you with your Eve.

With that said, only then is when you qualify to be married as there is a qualification criterion that needs to be met. As long as there is a need to be with someone, you are not ready. Your need must not substitute what Christ is doing, because you can need what you already have. When you get hungry it does not mean there is no food in your locker. You go to the market only when there is no food.

To some God is there in your house but you leave the house and go to the marketplace looking for someone to take care of you whereas you have God. Henceforth if you rightfully conduct yourself, then, those who oppose you will have nothing to say.

[1 Peter 3: 1- 4]

This verse is addressing those who are already married to unbelievers because their submission and conduct can win them over. Yet many women are trying to win over their husbands by speaking and not with their conduct. Women struggle with anger and temper, these things take away kindness. One can be kind in a way they can be slow to get angry. Women are quick to react and that character is not from God. Women are more of correctors and they should be careful and know that their husbands are not their children. In everything, they do they must be submissive and kind. The warmth of the house is built upon how you behave as a woman. The things that people struggle with are the things they excel with. The devil will attack you where your worship is.

As a husband, my worship is loving my wife and self-control when single. As a wife, your worship is in submitting. As a young woman, it is in how you conduct yourself, how moderate you are. Many women snap quickly. Men naturally seem ignorant and slow. Women grasp things quickly. God commands you to submit even though He knows that men are ignorant. Women are streetwise and smart. When God said women must submit it was not to say they are lesser, but He would not have commanded women to submit if automatically they were not under. God can see where you are as a woman but be subjected. Submission is foolishness.

(Verse 3) Your beauty must not come from outward adornment, yet many of you are parading that. You are proud that you are beautiful yet your character is not in line with your beauty. This will never happen in church but it was an abomination where two women were fighting. They all could not agree. Many are parading their beauty but check their speech, how they behave and conduct themselves. Even so, men because are ignorant, still take such kind with women with a character like that and make them wives.

In all, you do as a woman be gentle and kind. In his weakness why God says you ought to cover him? Women when you pray you must cover your head(See 1 Corinthians 11:5). Many are not enjoying their marriages because they do not come in as those who cover, submit, are kind, and subject. They ignite and quarrel. Men seek respect and want to be adorned. They love to be worshipped. What you worship you do not see any faults.

[Proverbs 3: 25-27]

Who deserves good and kindness? Do not withhold it as a woman. God cannot demand it when it is not in you. Go will never ask of the impossible. When He commands you to be kind He was not saying He will give you all, but be kind. He has installed it in you already. Do not withhold it from those who deserve it. There are some people who do not deserve it. This verse is addressing husbands and wives.

As my daughter, you are not going to be a fool, by submitting everywhere. Submit to those who deserve it. Now is no longer about sex before marriage but dating demands one to have marital qualities. You would find one complaining that there is no longer communication but these are things that are done and required from married people.

[1 Peter 5: 6]

Women must humble themselves to their husbands. This is an advantage and also a disadvantage if you marry an unbeliever because when you get married as a woman your husband becomes your god. Hence Sarah said to Abraham, ‘My Lord’. The Bible still quotes it in the New Testament showing that it is not the law but it is still relevant. That is why it is important not to subject yourself to an unbeliever because he becomes your god.
In that, you must worship him.

If you have a husband who is without Christ, note that you will submit to the flesh. The flesh will govern and have authority over you. It is hard to move under the authority of the flesh when you have subjected yourself. As your god is your husband, humble yourself and God will lift you. In marriage, there will always be promotion. How you behave and conduct yourself is what gets you to be promoted. A husband trusts a woman who conducts herself in a rightful manner. He can trust and allow you to operate as He is when you conduct yourself in the right manner.

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