DO NOT MARRY OUTSIDE THE WILL OF GOD

This message is directed to both single and married people. Those who are married will learn how one should conduct themselves when married and those who are single will know how to respond to the Word of God. In marriage one must continue to be who they are, marriage is often difficult for people because they think it is something or someone they have to become, instead of being who they are when they were single. Marriage only changes one’s title and not character.

Many fail in marriage because they think it is a state in which one must be. Often people are taught how a wife or a husband should be, today you are receiving the teaching of how a believer/Christian should be like. By doing so when you become a wife or husband marriage becomes easy. People tend to act in their marriages, hence such marriages do not last long.

When you are the Word you can marry any woman, however, a woman without the Word can challenge the Word in you as a husband. The Word should marry the Word. Any person who marries an unbeliever they are marrying an enemy because such a person will challenge the Word in them. Do not marry someone who will challenge who you are in Christ.

Do not allow yourself to enter into any temptations, do not find yourself making prayers that you should not. A believer should not be praying for their husband to love them, and neither should the husband pray for their wife to submit. There are certain things a believer should not pray for because they are the Word.

The Bible says when two unbelievers get married and the other receives salvation they should not leave their spouse (See 1 Corinthians 7: 12-14)this scripture is not addressing boyfriends and girlfriends. When there is an unbelieving married couple then one receives salvation it means that the Lord has visited their home. However, when a believer marries an unbeliever, it means such a believer has left their respective position because it is impossible for one to marry an unbeliever in the presence of God.

With that said, for one to be able to see love or feel loved by an unbeliever, it means such a person has left their own position. One cannot see love in the absence of God. Not every believer is Cornelius, Peter had to visit Cornelius at his home. It is not every day that a believer leaves their position and be at the level of an unbeliever. This scripture does not apply to everyone( See Acts 10). Therefore whenever a believer marries an unbeliever they are adding more lists to their prayer requests. Born-again married couples their prayer requests are not the same as compared of one who is married to an unbeliever.

Single brothers/sisters, who find it difficult to cover themselves in prayer what much more now when they have to cover their unbelieving partners? Whenever one marries an unbeliever whatever act they do against them, can be cheating or lies such is not regarded as a sin. When an unbeliever drinks or sleeps around they are not sinning because they do not know what is sin. Their only sin is not believing. It can never be a sin when one cannot distinguish between what is right and wrong. An act can only be regarded as a sin when one knows the truth.

It is impossible for Adam to pay attention to the Serpent without Eve being in the midst, while Eve can hear the serpent clearly in the absence of Adam (See Genesis 3)hence sisters are easily deceived. If you do not want to marry according to the Will of God then let it be a permissible Will in the house of God. A permissible Will can never be regarded as a sin. God cannot permit one to commit sin and to go back and become sinners once again.

The problem with marrying an unbeliever, you become a sinner without sinning. Likewise, when you sleep with a prostitute you become a prostitute without actually prostituting (See 1 Corinthians 6:16). Many people are praying useless prayers in their marriages due to the partners they are married to.

Most people tend to think marriage is an institution governed by love, but the truth is that marriage is a covenant of prayer, without prayer, there is no marriage.  A body is built to be one, you cannot separate the head from the body. Hence God hates divorce (See Malachi 2:16) because what He Has joined can’t be separated unless through death. Meaning one who decides to divorce, such a person has decided to die or end their own life.

[Ephesians 5: 22-26]

“Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife, as the Christ is the head of the Church…”

This scripture is often shared at weddings and single people tend to think they are immune to this verse or it is not intended for them. This verse instructs women to submit yet as a man how can you go on to marry a wife who cannot submit where they are supposed to and yet you expect them to submit in marriage?

With regards to the sisters who serve in the house, the troubles they give to their respective leaders in the church will be extreme in marriage. The level of submission they are giving to the Lord and Spiritual father is an illustration of the level of submission they have in them.

The disobedience that you see in the midst of your fellow brethren is the disobedience you going to experience in marriage. With that said, there is no unique submission that is required in marriage. The submission they had while single is the one that will mature in marriage.

It further says “Husbands you are the head to your wives, as Christ is your head” this requires introspection from brothers, the failure of a brother to lead themselves is a failure they will encounter in their marriage because such a brother won’t be able to lead their wife. As a brother, if you cannot lead yourself into prayer, you won’t be able to lead your partner.

The reason God requires submission from wives to husbands is not that the husband is entitled to submission, however, this is to show the husband their responsibilities in marriage. The head should be able to lead. Most men read this verse to put forth their demands.

The contrary in marriage is that wives know so much about how to love and not how to submit, on the other hand, husbands are experts when it comes to submission and yet do not know how to love. Many married couples fight because of what the other is doing and not about what they are both not doing, it is as though they are married to investigate one another. Not keeping in mind that marriage is not about expectations, or what you can get out but it is simply about giving out.

(Verse 23) Is directed to brothers, will you be able to save your wife? Love requires responsibility and the biggest responsibility is Spiritual responsibilities like being able to pray for your partner. Also do not be deceived, the friends and company she keeps will destroy your marriage, do not marry blindly. Regardless of beauty and financial reasons, one should marry based on behavior and character.

[1 Corinthians 11:6-11]

When one prays they need not to cover their head but uncover it, many misinterpret this verse as they do not read it to the fullest. The Bible says the head of a woman is man, meaning when wives cover their heads, by so doing they need to cover their husbands in prayer, and on the other hand when husbands pray they need to uncover their heads as Christ is without weaknesses.

How can a woman marry a man who covers his Head(Christ)? Such a man speaks about everything else but not Christ Jesus, why go on and marry such a person. Do not get married to any man who cannot uncover God. The Bible says “Love covers a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8 ) it further says love your wife” meaning a husband who loves will be able to cover their wife.

[1 Peter 5:7-8]

Cast out all your curses, anxiety, and worries all to Him(God). Pay attention, some people do not know where to cast their burdens and tend to speak to everyone and anyone. Some people are unable to keep quiet, that is the red flag, this goes to show that many do not know their alters but know of others.

Be sober and be vigilant, the devil is constantly seeking whom he can devour. The best way to be is to watch and pray at all times because if you are not sober the devil will devour you. Your marriages are in danger because you are not watchful and prayerful, a peaceful person does not respond to troubles and tribulations.

Many people are trouble solvers, but Christians are not problem-solvers because they watch and pray. One who does not know the prayer room should not get into marriage, marriage is not for them. Spiritual support is required in marriage, it is a necessity.

[Hebrews 12:15]

Lest any root of bitterness, look carefully, and let no one fall short of the grace of God. Directed to the singles it is best to do away with your past now, least it springs out in marriage. The only way to uproot the past is with the Word and prayer. Marriages should not be affected by what you did when you were alone.

[Song of Songs 2:15]

The little foxes that spoil the vine, you should catch them before they ruin the vine. Certain things are a threat to your love, a threat to the vine of love, and the love you have towards your spouse or God. The foxes can kill such love, hence it is important to do away with what is a threat to your love. The Bible uses foxes as an example because they are sneaky and steal. This scripture is not addressing giant foxes but the very small ones can destroy you, least you deal with them.

[James 1:19]

Be slow to anger, the problem with many partners they are quick to anger. Many are too quick to respond and not to listen, do away with anger and offense. Anger has spoken many times on behalf of people, self control is very important in marriage

[Colossians 3:13]

This is an advice to married couples, bear with one another and forgive one another. Married couples find it hard to forgive each other, they are full of grudges. It is a sin to count the previous sin especially when that sin was forgiven. The inability to forgive those who have sinned against you is a clear indication of a lack of love because love keeps no record of wrongs.

[John 14:16]

And I will ask My Father, and He will give you another advocate and helper. Therefore marry a person with a helper, who has an advocate because their level of hearing the Voice of God is important, how they fear God. Marry someone whose guide is the Holy Spirit such a person does not just make decisions, the Word of God is like a lamp unto their feet.

[ Matthew 18]

It says, two is better than one. However, in some instances, two is worse and they are better alone

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Abraham Unknown

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