THE IMPORTANCE OF PREMARITAL COUNSELING’ Part 3

•HEALTH

Abraham Unknown: It is not easy to tell if people marry because of love or the mandate is to actually corner their partners by not disclosing their statuses from the get-go, and it is unfortunate that it is usually brothers who do such to sisters. With the counseling sessions we had, it was only one sister who came forth and disclosed her HIV status to a brother before they could even get married; but with the guys, even when they know they wait to be summoned with results, and still some delay. Then in the last hours after a session that is when they ask to speak to me privately. Question is when were they going to disclose their statuses?

This matter of HIV testing, perhaps this is the first time you hear that we do such, and it is usually done twice after 6 months. They must still submit their results even though they went to test together, we do this so that everyone can be aware.

However, to educate everyone, do you know that it is not HIV & AIDS only that you must test? There are other diseases that cause a man not to be sexually active. A man needs to have an erection. In the book, it is discussed that what happens when you marry someone who has cancer? It is not that God cannot heal, but you must inform your spouse so that she/he knows which battle he/she is going to fight. You might be praying against cancer but the person you want to marry is not ready to fight that battle. Do people consider such when they want to get married?

Do you consider the genetic heredity of the person you are getting married to? When I and my wife met she had a tiny waist. When I got to meet her parents I realized they are chubby, meaning probably when she reaches a certain age group she might be chubby; so am I ready for such? The question is, are you prepared? Because many go through emotional abuse when the other spouse complains about weight gain, it might seem like it is a simple thing; but married couples fight over such and it takes away their joy.

Q: You are married to a very thin man if it happens that he gains weight in years to come, how would you feel?

Speaker 3: When you are in love you overlook such, you don’t think of such. But if it happens; one will have to compromise.

Abraham Unknown: When we are married we sacrifice a lot, personally my type was dark-skinned lady, slender, natural hair, and without makeup. When I met my wife’s parents I was prepared and acknowledged how she will look like. As years went on my wife gained weight and I realized I love the way she looks now. But with premarital counseling, we prepare you for such, body weight and issues of health, especially as a man in your lineage.

Q: Do you check in your family if there’s someone who had heart disease, high blood, and other generational diseases?

Speaker 1: Personally I usually check, because sometimes you might be sick and not know what is wrong with you, and you cannot pray blind or go to the doctor not knowing what is wrong. Therefore, not for marriage’s sake, but for myself I do check.

Speaker 2: I do not check, I go with the scripture “I am a new creature”

Abraham Unknown: During one of our soccer practice, I had a conversation with the guys that someday I must teach about such. Not per se that men have low life-spam compared to women, but men are ignorant they are not taking good care of themselves, and they do not eat healthy. There is no need for you to be sick and have a heart attack because males in my family had the disease. Knowing your family history means you will know what to eat and what not to eat, merely because you have faith it does not mean you must eat everything and be ignorant. Doing research and knowing genetic diseases means you will know how to conquer it, not only through prayer but eating healthy.

The reason why Shadrach, Meshach, Abednego, and Daniel were approved is because of what they were eating. They were eating vegetables, and they received favor from above. Meaning God enhanced them not only physically but also spiritually. Everything is given for food but not anything is beneficial, we must check what we eat.

Directed to women, will you bear with your spouse if they were to be diagnosed with cancer? With premarital counseling, we address such not only speak of the good but also discuss possibilities, but not to install fear but for preparation. With regards to genetic diseases, there must be forms to be filled, if one of the relatives has a certain sickness, and concerning drinking of alcohol and smoking it plays a role as some were conceived and their parents used to smoke and drink.

With the issue of health, it is very important to go through premarital counseling because some only become aware of such while at honeymoon and now the person is cornered and cannot leave. Many people are shocked and amazed, there was an incident where a newly wedded couple was in honeymoon and it happens the other partner had STD, and it was shocking as they were not intimate as they were preparing for their wedding, and it raised many questions.

Now the other partner is cornered and cannot leave because families are involved. Believe me when I say that in the church both brothers and sisters have secrets, hence these counseling sessions are very necessary.

•PAST RELATIONSHIPS

Q: Why is it important to disclose and know each other past relationships?

Speaker 1: Knowing the past relationships of the lady I am about to marry is important; so that when we are married the ex does not try to come back. In some instances, the ex can try and badmouth me to the family of my wife.

Abraham Unknown: Premarital counseling helps reveal who you used to be, the people you were previously involved with must be disclosed to your partner. There is a lot of men who have children whom they do not know, the woman became pregnant and never told the man. After 10 years a son shows up at your doorstep. These counseling sessions assist because by disclosing your past relationships, it helps as some exes might try to come back.

There was an incident where a married couple was walking in the mall, then a lady with a child came from nowhere and shouted that the baby does not have diapers, the couple was shocked. Fortunately, the wife was calm and managed to handle the situation. The husband did not disclose the previous relationship, now it is not clear if this happened in the past or was an ongoing relationship.

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